Professor Mom

Chronicles the life of a mom, teacher, and writer trying to stay sane amid the chaos of daily life.



Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

What a beautiful post.
I think I long more for babies when we aren't with one. The thought of it is more romantic for me (and unrealistic and not going to happen...), so I've had that same thing happen to me recently when holding a newborn. A sort of "Oh yeah, I guess I'm not going to have one of these again. Huh." And then a strange relief.
The parenting thing, I think it just keeps getting better. Then we can fuss some day about our teenagers!

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I agree, Omaha. I think that once you let go of the baby nostalgia, and you truly realize you are DONE, then you can throw yourself so much into parenting older kids--which is so rewarding and wonderful. I think about all the adventures that lie ahead, and we are also enjoying more independence from the kids, and a chance to interact with them on different levels now.

beck's picture beck

A friend of mine has this little brown eyed, round cheeked baby girl and everytime I see this baby girl, I think SHE SHOULD BE MINE. So I'm not quite at that point yet, but I hope I get there, too.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

It is a process, beck. Sometimes I do get the pangs, but for me the true test is always when I hold a baby. I just remember how I felt when we weren't done, and just had L., and I held my other SIL's newborn baby. The rush of emotions was almost unbelievable.

Mary-LUE's picture Mary-LUE

One reason I LOVE working in the nursery at church is because I can get all that snuggling in, and ooh and ahh and know that I am done with all that--because I never want to take them home. My hour and a half fills me up and then I am ready to give them back, no lingering yearnings.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

And I bet this is one of the huge joys of being a grandparent, too (even if this is in the future for us). All that snuggling, and a chance to relive parenthood again (without the sleepless nights).

canacao's picture canacao

Yes, a little baby is amazing. When I see a baby now, I recall my 15-year-old son's lovely time. Now it is totally different, it is the life we should cherish whereever whenever we are.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Thanks for your comment, canacao. Yes, all stages in our children's lives are so wonderful and definitely worth treasuring!