Professor Mom

Chronicles the life of a mom, teacher, and writer trying to stay sane amid the chaos of daily life.

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mouse's picture mouse

I'm sure for me this is colored by the fact that my son still needs help navigating social situations, but that's too young to let the kid figure out harsh reality on her own. At 2, sharing is still a very difficult concept. And given how she crumpled, she won't have taken anything positive away from this. In fact this lesson might teach her that bullying is a good way to accomplish things. Not that I could have mustered a response to the father on the spot; I would have just stared, mouth agape.


Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Yes, I mustered no response, either, except to stare.

I agree--I think the lesson he was trying to teach her--or that he thought he was trying to teach her, certainly back-fired.


BerryBird's picture BerryBird

Oh, that poor little girl. How sad for her!


J.M.'s picture J.M.

I would have definitely have stood up for my girl, too. I have, in similar situations. But maybe this was a dad thing? He might have insecurities about his smaller kid, and have come up with his own idea about how he thinks it best to prepare her to be who she is. There is at least one book I read (the first time around- poor second kid does not get as educated a parent...) that espoused that kind of approach. Even more upsetting would have been if you had seen the five year old's parents sitting back and letting him steal a toy from a two year old in the interest of letting him figure out how to act around other kids, or something.

Have a great week at the beach! I'm outright jealous!


Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Thanks, J.M.

I can't believe that bit of advice was in a parenting book. It did seem as if the dad were implementing some type of conscious parenting strategy--one I guess I derailed.