Professor Mom

Chronicles the life of a mom, teacher, and writer trying to stay sane amid the chaos of daily life.



MommaT's picture MommaT

Bless Mommies of girls. Sure you get to buy the cute little girlie clothes but you have to fix hair! That's a task I can't do. When S.'s friend (a girl) spends the night, I dread having to comb and fix her long beautiful hair. So I tip my hat to you. :-)

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Yes, the combing of hair IS an issue around here, which is why T. goes around most of the morning looking like there's a bird nesting in her hair.

Lilianpw's picture Lilianpw

Oh no! Now you've gone and reminded me why I wanted a girl so badly and I have to think again and remember how I love having my two boys, and how it's probably for the best that I did not have a girl. Oh well. :-)

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Oh, sorry Lilian! You know I would have been so happy to have had two boys--in fact, I thought I wanted that for some time, then I became convinced that I was going to have a girl for #2 and I was right!

Boys are wonderful--and brothers really have a special bond. The downside of having one of each is that they don't get the chance to have that special bond with a sibling of their own gender.

Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

We have a boy and a girl too and it is hard not to compare them based on gender roles. We let them enjoy what they enjoy, play with what they want to play with. There are just some things that are just innate, things that we didn't encourage, that make B a girlie-girl and our little man the boyish-boy that he is. It's a wonderful thing to watch!

Lilianpw's picture Lilianpw

Yes, I agree with that fully -- me and my brother aren't that very close and I always felt I wanted to have a sister! I can already see the bond between Kelvin and Linton get stronger and stronger. It's very cute to see them playing together. They do fight a lot, it's true, but they also enjoy each other's company. I couldn't be happier, really... and I kind of exaggerated in my comment, I'm OK that I didn't have a girl.

tulipmom's picture tulipmom

What do you know? I finally registered here so I can add my two cents.

I loved this post. I think it was around age 4 or 5 that T. started to shun the pink girly stuff. Prior to that he had a doll that he loved bathing in the tub and a doll stroller that he pushed around our cul-de-sac. If I took him to the Disney store, he'd make a beeline for the most glittery pink thing he could find (that always made D. cringe a little but I never discouraged him). T. was ecstatic when his grandparents bought him the purple Barbie beetle because it was the largest toy beetle car he had ever seen (he played with it for hours, no Barbies needed). And his Easy Bake oven is still one of his favorite toys.

And yet he now gets annoyed at the "pink aisles" in Target or the "pink pages" in holiday toy catalogs. As a matter of fact, when we told him the baby would be a girl last December, he was actually glad (despite his initial longing for a brother). I think he felt like a sister would be less of a "threat" to his toys.

I loved reading about T's "girly" response to the movie. She sounds like such a sweetheart.

Even though it wasn't by accident/chance/whatever that we "got" a girl and even though we didn't set out to have a girl just for the sake of a girl (ie... the Microsort stuff), I feel truly blessed to have one of each.

And now I'll stop rambling ....

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I'm glad you got registered, tulipmom! Good to see you...It's funny, L. used to gravitate towards the sparkly, colorful things too--I think "girls" toys can often be more appealing, because they are often visually more interesting to small children.

Yes, omaha mama--it is neat to have one of each and see these things unfolding.

Lilian--sometimes I get a pang of remorse to think about T. not having a sister. She would make such a good big sister...but then I remind myself that brothers and sisters can have a close bond too.