mouse's picture mouse

I'm guilty of the same thing sometimes, and I feel bad for it.

I remember in the first 2-1/2 years of particularly bad sleep patterns feeling like it would never end and had been going on forever--and I also lost perspective over how it had already changed over time.

Now if only I could conquer my own sleep problems.

Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

I've done that too. I'm working with a woman who is pregnant and due with her first child at the end of this month. I keep making declarations and then feeling bad and saying things like, "It's different for everyone though." I think sometimes we have to say our own situation out loud, just to see how it sounds. Sort of a getting it off of our chest.
It's okay for her to know that she might be in for a long haul. I don't think it's the WORST thing you could've said. ;-)

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I know--and heaven knows lots of people said lots of things to me when I was pregnant with both kids. But still, I feel badly...

Cara's picture Cara

Don't feel bad. Just look at it this way ... when her baby DOES end up sleeping through the night, she'll be so relieved and excited to brag to you about it! :) As a new parent myself, I know that hearing others' horror stories makes me all the more appreciative when my baby avoids the same fate.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Thanks for your comment, Cara--I like your perspective on things! I hope that mom ends up with a terrific sleeper--and chances are, she probably will. If not, she'll realize that she can cope with much more than she thought she'd be able to, and that's a pretty neat thing to learn along the way as a parent, too.