The Chatterbox

The Chatterbox

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the_tars's picture the_tars

That is so sweet and exactly the sort of surprise you were in need of, I'd imagine.

mouse's picture mouse

That made me cry. At least there are those little reminders in the midst of the rough patch that things can be better.

I think we have to allow ourselves our own pain, not to dismiss the horrible suffering of others, but to acknowledge that our own feelings are valid. It can be easy to tell oneself that there's so much worse than Asperger's, but that doesn't make it any easier when in the middle of a rough patch.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

It's hard sometimes not to feel self-centered when other people are going through such tragedy--but I think you're right, we have to work through our own troubles as they are happening, and not take on the guilt as well.

Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

How great - a little note from your L. Hold on to that, even when you feel like's he's out of your reach. He's there. Seeing you in tears, seeing you in a vulnerable moment, that was probably good for your boy. It's good for us all to know that about each other. Even if someone else's pain is far worse than our own, we all have our own difficulties. Mine yesterday were simply the stress of too many things to do in one day. I felt selfish being so grumpy about it too, but I guess we all have our challenges. Big or small.
We've had a rough patch (quite different than yours) with our girl lately, a new wave of emotions and how she's expressing them and I've found myself very unsure of how to handle it, parenting this 6 1/2 year old for the very first time. It feels like starting all over again and I've been quite unsure of myself!

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Honestly, I think parenting is one of the most frightening things. I used to think having an infant/toddler was difficult, but it pales in comparison to trying to negotiate the emotional/physical minefield of your school-aged child!

mouse's picture mouse

For all the time I have spent teaching teens and tweens, I am dreading parenting that age. I'll even admit that I'm glad I'll have the two boys. And I think there's a lot to be said for working up gradually to these ages!

beck's picture beck

I read a post the other day by the mother of very young children and she was terribly offended by any suggestion that parenting toddlers was easier than parenting older kids - but every parent of older kids that I know would sigh and roll their eyes, since kids' problems just tend to get harder and make our hearts heavier as time goes by.

Rough patches are awful. But they do lift, eventually. Wishing you easier days with L.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I think you don't realize what you are in for until your kids get older--then you wish for those easy toddler days of potty training and food battles!

gillie's picture gillie

Oh, what a good boy you have there. I'm weepy myself.


Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Thanks, Amie.