Professor Mom

Chronicles the life of a mom, teacher, and writer trying to stay sane amid the chaos of daily life.



beck's picture beck

The smartest thing I've ever done was to let my husband handle bedtimes - he's firmer and yet less crabby. We do... let's see - baths, bedtime snack, a story or a chapter, prayers and lights out, although it's only "we" in the Royal sense. I'm generally downstairs reading.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Wow beck--that was a smart and sane thing to implement early on! In the "old" days Scott used to do L. and I'd do baby T., because she needed me to nurse. But things would have been tons better if Scott had handled T. I suppose--at least that would have cured her of the "need to nurse" at bedtime!

I don't know, both my kids just are programmed to need me at bedtime...

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Meghan--I didn't know about blogs back when T. was a baby and I know I so needed to hear from other parents that they were going through the same striggles--especially with sleep--it always helps to hear other experiences!

I can assure you that you will miss those nurse-to-sleep days--I sure do! Sleep routines/struggles are like childbirth memories--you block out the painful moments and remember only the good ones.

Mary-LUE's picture Mary-LUE

Sleep rituals?

Well, um, er, the one thing you can plan on in my house is that you can't plan on anything.

But we have had some phases...

Oddly enough, when my son was in sixth grade (I think!), he started wanting me to do bedtime prayer with him again... that lasted until the middle of 8th grade and I was very grateful for that time. It was the time of unveiling what was bothering him, what he was worried, about, etc.

I started a bedtime ritual with Marley when she was about 8 months old. For one night. The next night, I sat her on my lap to read her a book and she started arching her back and screaming. It only took her one night to connect reading time with bedtime! Clever, yet exasperating girl!

Her bedtime ritual for a long time was throw her in bed and let her yell it out. (Seriously, the only thing we could do with her was toss her in and leave her be.)

Now, the last few weeks, I've started something new. I have a book of Celtic prayers and there are evening prayers, called Compline prayers. There is one for each day of the week and so Paul or I read one each night.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I love the idea of those Celtic prayers. And I know what you mean--I've heard from other parent/friends that with some kids you just have to leave them be to sort out sleep on their own!

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I used to think there was one way, too, and we struggled with this so much with my son. When I let go of that idea that there was one way and one way only, life got easier and happier for all of us. The best thing is to know your own child, and to respond to them individually, I think.