gillie's picture gillie

All I can say is that I recognized myself in this post to the point that I'm in tears having read it. THANK YOU for posting this.


Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

(((Hugs))to you--I am, of course, all over that post myself--the me I used to be, and the me I am now--trying to reconcile the two.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I must add, too, that it took me days to get this post right. I almost scrapped it all and hit "delete" because it just wouldn't pull together right...

beck's picture beck

It IS hard. I have a black bathing suit with a built-in girdle and underwire bra and a freaking skirt, but I still find myself yearning for one of those old-fashioned suits with long sleeves and a bathing cap.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Maybe if we all try and revive the old suits with the girdles, etc. we'll make a new fashion statement.

SingMyself's picture SingMyself

Yes-- my girls danced through the aisles at Target picking out all the fun patterns they liked, and it took me three hours or so of online shopping, plus ordering a few and sending some back, to find ONE that I liked. And yes, I could only find one, and it cost almost a hundred bucks, and it has a skirt, and underwiring. But when I put it on, I feel better about myself in a bathing suit than I have since I was 21, wearing an off-the-rack bikini :).

I know some people don't agree, but I tell my girls how beautiful I think they are all the time. I want them to have heard it a thousand times, by the time they're old enough to stop believing it.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Thanks, SingMyself and Meghan...

I tell T. she's beautiful and cute and smart all the time, too. I tell L. he's handsome funny and smart. I have heard, too, that it's better for parents not to compliment their kids too much, but I just don't understand why that's true. Obviously parents don't want to be over-the-top with the compliments, but, like you, I want my daughter to hear how beautiful she is a million times over, just as I want L. to hear how proud we are of him.

Hmmm...maybe underwire is the solution to my woes. I haven't ever had a suit with underwire...

antiquemommy's picture antiquemommy

This line made me laugh "I have learned to never, ever go swimsuit-shopping with a small child. They either point out your flaws with brutal honesty, or distract you from noticing your own flaws..."

Or sometimes they open the dressing room door WIDE OPEN while you are not exactly decent. Kind of ruins everyone's appetite.

But yes, so true and beautifully written.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Thanks, antiquemom. My daughter loves to open bathroom stalls while I'm still there, not quite decent yet.