FamilyEducation BlogsAugust 13, 2009
Knowledge is powerWhile I was knee-deep in meetings on Tuesday, Scott took T. to see Charlotte's Web at the free family summer film festival (we've been huge fans of these free films--let me tell you). I love E.B. White's book, and I like the film, too. In fact, I still remember reading Charlotte's Web as a child and thinking, for the first time, very hard about this whole meat-eating business. It was, I think, the first book that made me question not just what I ate, but where it came from. And although I tried a vegetarian diet many time, it wasn't until years later, when I was in my twenties, that I completely gave up eating meat. Not long ago a preschool playground acquaintance and I were discussing vegetarianism, and she was probing about our choice to raise the kids as vegetarians. When I mentioned to her that I thought it was pretty intuitive for kids to want to be vegetarian, she wrinkled her face up and shook her head--this is, after all, the land of pulled pork and the place where Chick-fil-A reigns supreme. But I still stand by my point. Kids are programmed to view the animal kingdom empathetically; we read our kids story after story where the main characters are talking pigs, or chickens, or cows, or rabbits, or birds, or horses--you name it, a children's book has probably been written from the point-of-view of every single member of the animal kingdom (and the insect world, and even invertebrates). As a child I read so many children's books featuring charming and sensitive little mice characters that I would go around and set off the mouse traps my dad used to set in the basement. How does a small child reconcile the world of talking animals with with the pork chop on their plate at dinner? My conversation with this parent made me remember a preschool party I went to a couple years ago. One of the parents had brought in chicken nuggets--the "fun shaped" kind you can buy in colorful boxes from the freezer section of the store. As she was doling these out to the kids she called them by their shapes ("Oh! Here's a star for you! Look! Here's a little circle!"), creating, I think, at a young age, a harmful and immediate disconnect between what children eat, and where it comes from. ********** I would never criticize parents for raising their children as meat-eaters, but I do think it's important to teach our kids from a young age to understand where their food comes from--this will only help our kids make smart choices later in life. Our culture loves packaging; we love putting a spin on things, and adding snazzy slogans to ads in an attempt to sell food, and to create--I think--a further distance between what we eat, and where it comes from. When I was a child and I visited my grandparents in Greece, I loved to go with my grandmother when she would do her daily shopping. There were no mega grocery stores then (there are in her neighborhood now)--you went to the green grocer for the vegetables, to the fruit stand for the fruit, to the baker for the warm, yeasty bread, and to the butcher for the meat. And while I loved going to all the other shops, I didn't much like the butcher shop. In there, you came face-to-face with what you were buying and eating--hunks of beef hung on hooks, plucked chickens dangled near the counter. The shop smelled of...meat--the raw, fresh, smell of blood. But I knew exactly where my roast beef came from; I knew that the chicken my grandmother cooked for dinner, or stirred into an avgolemono soup came from that same naked chicken I'd seen hanging from the hook by the butcher's counter. I try not to preach vegetarianism to everyone, but I do feel passionate about "food education" and honesty--let them learn where their burger comes from, show them that you read labels, talk to them at the grocery store about how the fruit grows, or where vegetables come from; let them see the animal that gave the meat, the cow that produced the milk, the chicken that laid the egg, the stalk that grew the corn,. Try and avoid buying foods packaged "for kids" and stick to the authentic, the original, the natural--I think our kids will thank us for this, I really do. |







Hmm! Interesting.
We live in a meat-farming and hunting INTENSIVE town. If there's one thing my kids know, it is where meat comes from - the same pigs that they threw apples to and scratched with sticks all summer became the pork chops on their plate. They've seen deer hung up in neighbours yards, they've caught fish and helped their father clean them, and we never eat the prefabricated meat stuffs.
One thing I do believe pretty intensely is that the Bambification of animals has very little to do with reality. While we treat animals with kindness and compassion, we are quick to point out that Charlotte's Web is a work of fiction and that pigs do not spend the summer fearing the autumn. And because they've actually spent a lot of time around animals, they know that they are not talking child-substitutes and that children's books are just fiction.
We eat meat at our house, but we call chicken chicken and they know beef is cows. Fish come from the sea, and so on. My B has asked before why we eat animals. I've talked a little about the food chain and also talked to her about how some people make the choice not to eat meat. She has learned the word vegetarian just like nocturnal, reptile, or amphibian. It's vocabulary at this point. If she made that choice at some point I would absolutely support it. I can see it both ways, absolutely. And feel strongly also that kids need to be educated about where their food comes from and why we eat what we do. :-)
I totally agree, Omaha (and beck, too). I think my problem (I almost wrote 'beef'--ha!) is mainly with the industry, and with how advertising tries to encourage parents to foster this disconnect between the food they buy, and the animals it came from.
With all our food issues with Scooter, I'll admit we look for some gimmicks. Dr Praeger's now makes different types of veggie patties in shapes--potato, sweet potato, broccoli, and spinach, if I'm remembering correctly. Since he dislikes all gluten-free chicken nuggets, we've been trying these, with mixed success.
After this pregnancy (and even a little bit now), I'm going to work on decreasing the amount of meat in our diet. I was a vegetarian for over 10 years, for very much the reasons you mention, but pregnancy derailed that for me in a big way. Being gluten-free makes it harder to use vegetarian supplements, though I think I saw Boca or another company making a gf "burger," so maybe it'll be easier by the time I'm past full-time breastfeeding.
Oh, I don't think anyone should feel pressured to adopt a vegetarian diet--I think there are plenty of ways to have a healthy, environmentally-conscious diet and still include meat.
And as far as gimmicks? I'll confess here: you know, we worry so much about L.'s limited diet and his incredibly rigid eating patterns (being a parent of a child with an eating disorder is scary and awful) that I do think my heart would do a happy dance if I saw him eating a piece of chicken.
There, I said it.
Do you think L would eat meat? Maybe that's the missing link for him, maybe he's a natural carnivore! The students I've taught here who are on the spectrum love (and by love, I mean eat every day) chicken nuggets and chicken patties. Not ideal...but preferable to not eating!
Nope--I've tried it, believe it or not! Last winter we went through a really bad patch, and L. was sick, too, and lost weight. On a desperate impulse I bought a prepared container of chicken noodle soup (he likes broth) from Trader Joe's, squeezed a bunch of lemon into it, and placed it in front of him. He said is "smelled funny".