Sweet Pea Chef

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JohnROSS's picture JohnROSS

Oh yeah, you've done it now!(As in opened the flood gates, gotten me started, brought up an "Oh-HELL NO! kinda issue, etc.)

When I was in 1st or 2nd grade my Mom's solution was "You'd better NOT come home and tell me someone was picking on you and you didn't fight back(again)".

OK, in my case, that may have been appropriate for 1964(though choking a bully until he turned purple was probably over the line on my part).

You know about our six year old A's issues, so you can imagine about what my feelings are concerning his upcoming school experience.
So far, in his fourth week of first grade, as far as I know it's been ok.

I know people, oh - say about my age, who are still dealing with fear and anger issues in therapy - stemming at least partially from grade school bullying.

ok, that's all I've got to say about that(for now).

p.s. thanks for another great post.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I've been thinking so much about this lately--in large part because my son gets picked on, but also because of everything that's been going on in the news. I've been thinking about my own brushes with teasing and bullying, too, and yes, I still remember them, years later! I can't say I've been scarred because of them, but I know some experiences really stayed with me--hurtful words, and humiliating moments. I think we should all work to spare all our kids moments like those. I know we can't protect them all of the time, but we all need to step up and help--especially the schools.

mouse's picture mouse

There are things I'm self-conscious about precisely because I was teased about them in school. I know better than to buy into it all these years later, but it really has stuck with me.

As a teacher, I hate that I can't catch every whisper and look or that I don't know what's going on outside of my classroom so that I can't understand the references of certain remarks. I don't know that we'll ever completely eradicate bullying in the schools, but it's one of the most important things I can work towards!

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I agree, mouse. I think if we are all hyper-aware, and work hard to step in and role-model correct and empathetic ways to treat others, this will help. I think peers can play a huge part in all this, too--which is why I think the best thing we can do is encourage kids to stand up for others.