Professor Mom

Chronicles the life of a mom, teacher, and writer trying to stay sane amid the chaos of daily life.



Hetha's picture Hetha

I always get such great ideas from you Aliki. You're my role model in so many ways. You ask a good question that I don't really have an answer for. We use a lot of physical contact. Ethan is totally deaf during the night and we have a tough time signing in the middle of the night, so for us it's about proximity and touch.

mouse's picture mouse

The problem with Scooter is trying to figure out which method is best-suited to each specific incident. If I can get him to laugh, that's the easiest way out of a mood, but sometimes it just makes him yell more. Sometimes it's physical touch, sometimes it's giving him space. Usually it's best not to try to talk through it until later. And then we have to make sure there are no distractors, as we ended up with another near meltdown last week because he couldn't process what his Grandma was trying to tell him during a TV show and he became convinced he wasn't getting to go to a birthday party (not what she was saying at all). We've been learning to change tactics quickly and try to make up for any initial missteps.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Thanks so much, Hetha--proximity is key for us, too, although more and more L. just wants us sitting near him, and not touching him much when he's upset.

Mouse--we've learned the hard way too that too much talking, etc. is just so hard for L. to process, even when it *seems* he's listening, he's not processing it, which is confusing of course, and stressful for him.

Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

I think my comment yesterday may have gotten swallowed up!
I was just saying how my kids are different, with their cheering up needs. Our little guy usually cheers up with a song or being silly. B needs hugs and lots of processing. She likes long talks and really figuring things out. Could be because the little man is only two, but I remember B being that way, even at a much younger age.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Sorry about your swallowed comment, IS funny how kids all need things--maybe it's a boy/girl thing, maybe not, but I think the key is figuring out what works, and tweaking it as they grow older!