Professor Mom

Chronicles the life of a mom, teacher, and writer trying to stay sane amid the chaos of daily life.

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mouse's picture mouse

Currently most people notice me for my baby belly--but otherwise I've long been fairly invisible. My father-in-law and I have both talked about how odd it is to be 6 foot or taller with a decent physical presence and still get run into on the sidewalk and in stores all the time. I'm another who doesn't like to be too visible, but some recognition of my existence is appreciated.


Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Oh yes, the pregnant belly does much to alter public space! I do remember feeling fairly "invisible" though then I was pregnant--as though people saw the pregnancy and not who I was inside, behind it.


mouse's picture mouse

I definitely feel that--and that the pregnancy renders Scooter invisible in a similar way. So many people relate to him as "big brother" now.


Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

The same thing happened to L., too. I remember being so grateful, in fact, when a good friend stopped by the day we came home from the hospital and brought L. a present, too, and spent time talking to him and NOT about being a big brother! I'm hyper-conscious of this now and take care to bring gifts to the sibling of a new baby and to downplay the "big brother/sister" side of things.


Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

I read someone's post the other day about things that get complimented about her regularly. I got a little sad...realizing I don't really get those kind of compliments any more. Which it's own invisibility, isn't it? Parenting also definitely lends itself to that, doesn't it?


Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I know what you mean, Omaha. I definitely don't get the same kinds of compliments I used to get, once upon a time. But now I get different ones, and they're good, too. Still, sometimes I miss some of those old compliments. ;)