Professor Mom

Chronicles the life of a mom, teacher, and writer trying to stay sane amid the chaos of daily life.

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Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

Have I mentioned the book that my sister and I decided we'd write as I was caring for my first newborn? She'd been through it three times already and was my go-to for advice, being the laid back, non-judgy person that she is. The book would have one page and it would say, "When trying to feed, bathe, nap, care for, etc...your child, do what works for you from the list of suggestions in the baby books you read. What works for you and your baby. And tell anyone who doesn't agree to mind their own business. The end."

I'm making my dad a scrapbook for my dad for his 60th b-day that's coming this summer and my grandmother had saved their hospital bill in his baby book (I wish I had thought to do that! It is priceless). It was something like $6 per day for a 5 day visit. The whole bill was about $60! Crazy. I love looking at all of those old bits from doctors and the like. Times have certainly changed.


Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I love those bits and pieces from the past, too! In my husband's box was a hospital bill from when his grandmother gave birth--I think it was $22!


mouse's picture mouse

I generally preface advice to new parents with the sorts of stuff you mention at the end. And also tell them to feel free to ignore everything I say. I really do mean it too. I remember sitting at a table of colleagues who were being "helpful" and telling me how I "had" to do cry-it-out and not let my kid sleep in my bed and a whole host of other things which, from my perspective, so clearly did not apply to my child. And you already know about the eating issues from our end!

My parents were not completely immune from the parenting advice from the beginning of the 70s, with a dose of what they grew up with in the 40s thrown in for good measure. To the credit of Scooter's grandparents, however, they have not stuck by those guns in their advice to us, so I feel lucky not to have the sorts of expectations you talk about applied to my "unruly" child.


Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

The "Unruly Child" pamphlet was the most disturbing, as it describe L. to a tee!