I was the first child in my family to go away to school. I chose a school about 3 hours away from my home-- an eternity at the time, especially since I didn't have a car, but still close enough where I could come home if I absolutely had to.
Obviously, the first weeks/semester were an adjustment. I was learning to live on my own, with a roommate whom I barely knew (but luckily ended up being good friends with), and taking courses that were harder than I was used to. (After all, it was college!)
So I specifically remember a good chunk of time when I was calling home a lot. And by a lot, I mean...at least every day. Sometimes more. Sometimes way more if I was having a particularly bad day.
My mom dealt with it like a champ. She would listen to my college woes and remind me that, yes, I would make it through the semester intact.
She still sometimes teases me about how much I used to call home.
Luckily, I adjusted (as most college kids do) and my excessive phoning home settled down.
Looking back on it, I know I was just homesick. I would call and my family would be eating dinner, and I'd feel a little left out that I wasn't there eating my mom's yummy home-cooked meals with them. Calling home gave me a sense of comfort. And I'm lucky that I have that kind of relationship with my parents that I can call home. (And I still do. I talk to them 3-4 times a week.)
So, as college starts and some of you new found empty-nesters are adjusting to your child be away, here's my question to you:
How often do you talk to your grown children? Do you take it as a sign that your relationship is healthy, or do you look at it as a sign that they are clingy? Do you keep in touch better now that texting, email, facebook, twitter, etc. etc etc. have come on the scene?