Professor Mom

Chronicles the life of a mom, teacher, and writer trying to stay sane amid the chaos of daily life.

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chrissygreenny's picture chrissygreenny

this made me tear up. i felt sad and angry for L. and sad and angry that you are "invisible" in your own workplace. people often see the masks we put up but more often they just see the masks THEY place on our faces and hearts.


Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

It's strange--my "invisibility" at work doesn't bother me too much because teaching is strange profession--you work for both the students, and for the administration. I feel very visible to my students, and that's what matters to me the most.

It DOES bother me tremendously when people--even people who are close to us--don't "see" L. for what's underneath. I hate when assumptions are applied to him, because they are often so unfair and ill-informed.


Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

That's so great that he stopped to open that door. I think a lot of what we teach our kids are things that they display when we are not around (I know you were there...but he was mainly on his own) and I love it when I hear or get to witness them doing the things we taught them.

Sometimes teachers really do say things the wrong way. No matter what she meant...she insulted L. This has happened several times this year with B. She's struggling with timed math assessments and hasn't progressed much. When her teacher makes sweeping statements to the class about kids who are still on levels A and B, my B takes it so personally. It's hard for her to understand later, when her teacher says she is doing just fine because that's not what she said to the class. A little sensitivity in teaching goes a long way!


Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I'm sure L.'s teacher didn't mean to insult him, but it's not the first time this has happened--you are so right, a little sensitivity in teaching is critical--and so important.


mouse's picture mouse

The assumptions about people with AS are a large part of why it took me so long to recognize it in myself. I am super-sensitive, my feelings easily hurt. Making eye contact with others is not natural to me because the amount of information it presents is overwhelming, not because the information is unimportant to me. E. misses a lot of the subtle aspects of interaction, but he's getting to the point where he recognizes he's missed something. We're working on him being more aware of his existence in space and doing things like holding doors, but it's taken some explicit instruction--not because he's uncaring or unwilling, but because it hasn't been on his radar to notice and it's not a natural skill for him.


Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I think things were "easier" when L. was young, because he didn't recognize how much he was "missing" and how people judged that. But we've definitely noticed that as he's gotten older, lots more problems have arisen as a result of how people "misread" him and just don't understand that a person can be very sensitive, and still struggle with empathy.