Professor Mom

Chronicles the life of a mom, teacher, and writer trying to stay sane amid the chaos of daily life.



mommaya's picture mommaya

It's heartbreaking to see how mean girls can be to each other, starting at such a young age. My girls are still toddlers, but I'm already starting to worry about how difficult it will be to help them through their school years!

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Thanks for your comment, mommaya--it is heartbreaking, you're right. I think I was unprepared for it all to start at such a young age. Preschool was so safe and all the kids were friends with each other. We saw the mean girl thing start in kindergarten, although not to this degree.

Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

Chess pieces, I like that. I have to remind myself all the time of all of the hurts, embarrassments, and mishaps I survived in school. Somehow it helps me, to think of those things because I can remember how quickly I got over them as a kid and how I stayed friends with mostly everyone. Even the chess players! I've had to get over wanting my kids to have a perfectly smooth school experience because I don't think it exists! But we can stay present, can't we? Make sure our kids know that home is always safe and that we always have their backs! :-)

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

You're right, Omaha--we have to work to be that "safe' place and help our daughters develop their own strong sense of self-esteem and self-respect.

It helps me to look back and see how I "survived" mean girl experiences (and mean boy ones, too!). But I know I've struggled all my life with the dynamics of female friendships and so this is something I'm very sensitive to.