Professor Mom

Chronicles the life of a mom, teacher, and writer trying to stay sane amid the chaos of daily life.



chrissygreenny's picture chrissygreenny

and you know what? he is lucky to have you in his life. he really, really is.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Thanks, Christine. We've really had a difficult year, and sometimes I have to remind myself that we're all doing the best we can!

mouse's picture mouse

I cried Tuesday night and I'm crying now too. I was incredibly touched by how Adam went from scoffing at the positives to truly meaning them when they had their "do over."

I had a good talk with my father-in-law on Saturday, thanks to the previous episode of Parenthood. He wanted to know what we had heard about how to tell kids. So I know I have him on board after our discussion.

We're in an odd position with E., in that he doesn't stand out as much in our community as he might elsewhere. We also have the interesting situation of being able to tell him he's not the only one in the family. Of course, I'm hoping I can remember this script when it comes time.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

It's good to get the grandparents on board! I think it's imporant to think about how to talk about AS, but to "forgive yourself if you end up deviating from the script, or crying, or getting emotional. I thought that episode was so well done--I was also really touched by Adam.

Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

I just think it's so important that you informed him. So many families choose to deny the diagnosis, hide it, and the student ends up feeling failure instead of understanding what's going on. I had high school kids on the spectrum who had no idea that they had autism or even what autism is. How is a person supposed to learn skills to overcome challenges if they don't even know what's going on? I'm an advocate for full disclosure, whether you get the conversations right or not, it's so great to just TRY and get the information out there. It can be something that takes a long time for a person to understand, but at least you're letting them try instead of pretending it doesn't exist.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I agree so much, Omaha--full-disclosure is hard to do because it takes a lot of strength and definitely isn't easy to do. But, in the end, I believe as you do--that's it critical for the child, and critical for the whole family, too.