Professor Mom

Chronicles the life of a mom, teacher, and writer trying to stay sane amid the chaos of daily life.

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chrissygreenny's picture chrissygreenny

thanks for this great piece, A. i wish my moms club would have a lecture/talk on this topic, too.


Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

I know what you mean about how hard it is to explain to a kid about being teased. My B is a complete goofball, often completely on her own planet. It feels wrong to try and tell a kid that the way they act may lead others to be rude. So I don't. That being said, bullying is on a whole other level than the kind of teasing I'm referring to.

Your words on the reasons for bullying remind me of a seminar on domestic violence I attended while working on my social work degree. It talked about the only reason for domestic violence is POWER and that the cycle of violence always comes back to that. It also talked about how the most successful way to get abusive men to stop is to have other men talk to them (as sexist as that sounds, it was research-based) and it makes me wonder if there's something behind that. If maybe that "elite" group of peers are needed to put a stop to bullying, if maybe they could be the ones to stop the cycle.


Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I agree--I think there needs to be tons more attention given to the specific strategies/psychology of bullies and I do believe that peer groups are the key to moving closer to a solution.