Professor Mom

Chronicles the life of a mom, teacher, and writer trying to stay sane amid the chaos of daily life.



chrissygreenny's picture chrissygreenny

I'm doing the privacy notebook RIGHT NOW. brilliant idea. and in 4th grade my girl learned about periods, antinomy, etc. at school. next year is THE talk, I think. maybe i need to bring this up over the summer. *sigh*

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I LOVE the privacy notebook. I can't tell you how invaluable it was this past fall/winter when things were so very difficult. It was truly a lifeline. I'm waiting to see if L. will use it to ask about The Talk-related questions, but do far he's been olay about asking them in person. We'll see...

preppedandpolished's picture preppedandpolished

Great tips. The parents definitely have to act cool and mature when asked these types of questions. I wonder when is a good time for parents themselves to initiate these types of discussions...

Alexis Avila, Licensed Guidance Counselor, Private Tutor, and Founder of Prepped & Polished, LLC

Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

B and I have discussed how a baby comes OUT, which was definitely an interesting conversation. I finally told her that bit of info after she had asked multiple times. Somehow she hasn't worried about how they get in, so we haven't had to go down that road yet. YET.

Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

I had the experience of teaching a human body unit and a sex ed unit to 15 teenagers with special needs. We did not split them up for most of it (we did a small and separate anatomy unit), it was during our science class. I was surprised that it really did go pretty well. It seems like if you acknowledge that it can be an embarrassing topic, but it's something that everyone experiences and feels differently about, it just sort of becomes less of a big deal. Our running joke in biology was that for each creature we seemed to end up discussing its "parts" and how it poops. Maybe slightly immature, but kids respond well to humor.

The main thing I want to point out to my own kids is that they can talk to me about ANYTHING and nothing will be embarrassing or inappropriate. That I'm open to any question and it can stay between us. That's something I misssed with my own mom. We didn't have that open line of communication that I want to try and have with mine.

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

Yes--I'm striving for that open line of communication, too. I think it was a generational thing when we were growing up--even schools did little to address these topics.

It's funny--L. was present at T.'s birth--through the WHOLE thing (we didn't intend for him to be there!) so I know he saw how babies came out. But he never asked anything more about it!

mouse's picture mouse

We were NOT separated in grade school for either 5th or 6th grade (we had a unit both years). What strikes me as incredibly irresponsible now is that our teachers crammed the two 6th-grade classes into one room, turned on the video, and left the room. And then they got furious with the classes when we didn't take the question box seriously and submitted ridiculous questions (we spent recess trying to come up with the most outrageous ones we could imagine).

I have to give my parents credit, as they gave me enough truthful information that I knew when my classmates were getting it all wrong.

Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

I love the idea of it just being part of growing up, not some traumatic day at school that's horribly embarrassing. Will be going on amazon shortly to find my almost eight-year old some reading materials for this summer! :-)

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I"m glad you got some good reading list suggestions! I added one more--"I Wonder Why I Blink and Other Questions About My Body"

T. really likes this one, and I like the way they handle the material.