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August 25, 2009

“Say something positive about me at my funeral.”

This is the last week of our summer program. I asked the boys how they felt about the program ending. They sat silently with their heads hung low. [more]

August 21, 2009

"Don’t ever say that we don’t care."

In response to a remark made by one of the boys, a staff member, her voice filled with emotion, said, "You can call us rats, snitches, cops, informants, or even federal agents, but don't ever say that we don't care." [more]

July 28, 2009

Again, between two worlds . . .

An unmarked police cruiser waited for me in the church parking lot.

Two officers walked toward me. I knew them. We worked together.

Still, this was unexpected. [more]

July 22, 2009

The Gang’s All Here

I sat in a chair like a school teacher in an empty classroom. But instead of students, it was my boys I waited for. "It’s ten minutes to two, where are they?” I watched the door and the clock.
July 1, 2009

Check My Resume

Part of our summer program includes hiring a “handyman.” The handyman’s role is to be a liaison between the staff and our program participants. Preferably, the handyman is a former — and reformed — gang member.

Yesterday we interviewed a young man.

He finished my sentences.

I asked, “Why do you want this—”

“Job?” he said.

“What qualifies you to work­­—”

“With gang members?” he said.

“I’m certified. I’ve been a gunman since my youth.” He paused. “On the streets, my reputation speaks for itself.” [more]

June 24, 2009

Starting Over

I asked the boys to meet me at six o’clock.

I sat in a chair waiting, watching the small hand on the clock.

It’s now half-past six. [more]

May 13, 2009

“U sure?”

My phone vibrated while I listened to a panelist talk about youth violence and policy with a group of political progressives.

I looked at the phone. It was one of the boys.

I texted. “In meeting. Can’t answer. If you want community service hours go to church at 8-9 pm and sit in youth group meeting. I will not be there. I will be late. But my husband is expecting you all.”

He wrote, “Wat happen.”

“Do you want to do some community service,” I asked.

“Yeah,” he said.

“Alright, go to the church at 8. I will be late. But my husband--” [more]

April 16, 2009

“He is going to be dead soon.”

I stared at his mug shot. I remembered. It was another gang intervention. We identified 25 of the city’s most violent gangs and their most influential members. Charles sat across from me. We asked him and others, “please stop.” It was ghostly. Steven Odom crossed my mind. Steven was probably playing basketball as we pleaded with the young man who would soon become Steven’s murderer.
March 23, 2009

Trying

A young man wearing a black leather jacket, baggy blue jeans, and a tear-drop tattoo under his right eye stood next to me in line at the local Dunkin Donuts. He asked for the manager.

The manager arrived, still tense from having just kicked out a drunk, “How can I help you?”

The young man replied, “I haven’t heard from you and I wanted to check in.”

Nothing.

“Do you remember me?” he asked. “I filled out a job application.” [more]

February 20, 2009

Dreaming and Imagining the Possibilities

In the coffee shop I listened to two people sitting across from me talking about starting a new youth program.

I remember being on the other side of the table. I remember when people listened to me go on and on about Villages Without Walls. I am not insinuating that Villages Without Walls has become a conglomerate; but I remember when it was nothing more than something that I thought about when I was lying in bed at night. [more]